So last night my wife wants to have sex, and I'm as always 100% for it. We haven't been together in 8 days, and believe me, I hate waiting that long. But she has been under stress from work (getting home late, etc), dealing with family issues, and of course, being pregnant. Sadly, when she was pregnant last time we would have sex about once a month because she had lost all desire... (it was shitty)

So last night, I figure its not going to happen, we eat dinner, put the lil'one to bed and the wife starts stroking my cock. Of course I instantly get hard and she responds by taking of her shirt and pulling my face down on those awesome thick and full double d's (god I love pregnancy boobees). After about five minutes of making out and rubbing on her super wet pussy, she starts sucking my cock while I stroke her back and butt. After about 3 mins (hell maybe less, hard to keep time when your getting head) she gets on top and starts riding me.

So far so good right?
I suck hard on her nipples and I feel her pussy tighten up as she moans and cums, pretty hard. I flip her over and get behind her and start some doggy action, going slow and deep for about 30-40 strokes, then I slowly increase the tempo while pulling her butt cheeks apart exposing her clit to my thrust, with a handful of ass in each hand. I thrust deep and my balls are slamming into her clit, this makes her cum again and I can feel the extreme wetness running down my nuts.

After about, oh 3 or 4 mins of pounding her hard I get close but I can tell it's not going to happen doggy style. I pull out to reposition and she tells me:

"babe, its not going to happen, I can't contine... sorry, I know your frustrated"

I respond by telling her I am really close and please don't do this to me.. she tells me its uncomfortable and hurts and she can't do anything else. She rolls over and sighs ... I get pissed, I got outside and smoke a cigarette and when I get back she is snoring and passed out...

Clearly, I'm doing something wrong!


any real advice on this?
(surprise butt sex and blowing my load on her sleeping are not going to happen, that shit is immature and just wrong)
Love to hear a lady's perspective on this.

 

Maybe ask her to finish you off with a BJ?

 

she won't after its been inside, she doesn't like the taste.

 

Oh to bad
Maybe if she's into anal...

Or she could finish you by wanking you off, if shes ok with that?

 

Sadly there is no chance of anal with my wife. One of ex's ruined that and he was a lot smaller than me. I think I'm going to have to go to prison to experience anal sex

She was just done and exhusted from getting off twice.

I guess I should focus more on trying to get my pleasure out of it. I mean fuck, when you focus on the other person and they don't give you any attenion, how long are you going to think about their needs.

Starting to wonder of I should find myself a FWB.

 

Are you looking for justification to go elsewhere? Just chalk it up as a bad night, and be ready for the next time.................

 

Sorry I don't have any suggestions, but you do have my empathy. She sounds pretty selfish at least not offering to help finish you off... But then again I am not privy to your relationship. She may have just been having a bad day... or a bad decade.

I don't think going elsewhere is a valid answer though, unless of course she agrees. Guess the best thing you can do is wait it out. Talk to her and hope things change in the future.

Good luck!

...Tsk, and here I was hoping to post a smart ass remark or a picture, and you had to go ruin it with your sincere well typed post. Ah what the hell. Here it is anyways

 

no not justification.... not at all.

I do chalk it up to a bad night and who knows.... maybe tonight will be another chance, but given how infrequent things are already, I have my doubts

 

Look into taoist sex practices, they revolve around not blowing your load, but keeping it instead, and then transferring the sexual chi around your body so it invigorates you but doesn't aggravate you. Looks like you could use some meditation with a wife like that lol

 

No desire for tantric sex, I want to get my rocks off.

I think I'm just frustrated and mad, we had a great sex life before the first baby and now it's a once a week thing at best. Worse still is having to wait for over a week and then not getting my needs met. I felt used, and not in the good way.

Ehh, shit happens I guess but still.... Shitty!

 

give the woman a break she probably tired fronm looking after a young kid and being pregnant again, and all you cvare about is your rocks gettng off. Maybe if you help her out a lil more with housework and childcare he would be up for sex a lil more. and if you do go elsewhere for it i hope she takes you for every penny you got in the divorce

 

LOL

that is funny. I take our 2 year old to school, pick her up, feed her, paly with her, cook dinner, do the dishes, grocery shopping, laundry, and more. I felt frustrated and used and while I've had offers and entertained the idea of a "friend" I've never once taken advantage of it. I'm not the cheating type and I'm damn sure doing my part around the house.

Um.....Bitter much?

 

im not being bitter, just reading bout someone moaning bout not getting his rocks off and "hinting" about other options. Good for you about helping round the house but 2 year olds dont go to school, sounds like your talking pash

 

titty fuck?

 

I feel for you, but try to also consider that she tried. It isn't much, but you need to remember that you yourself said she suffers from a lower sex drive while pregnant.
Also, it may be that doing it doggy style was to hard on her back, what with the child in her and all. Most people I've talked to have usually had sex with the woman on her side when she is pregnant. It puts less strain on her back and still lets you really go at it.
I just suggest looking for some "pregnant friendly" positions and see of those help you in the future.

 

Ummm 2 year old's do go to school for some folks and or day care. Admit you jumped to some judgments on the dude.

Dude.. Go slower, let her get one orgasm, then get yours, then if you can give her the second one. That way you are covered too.

 

You have got hands, use one.. Not ideal but it might help you relax.

 

After saving up for 8 days, you should be able to cum pretty quick, if not, something is not right !

 

you said you wanted to hear a woman's perspective so here's mine...

I've never been pregnant and don't plan to for a few thousand years, but I can understand overall uncomfortableness (word?) because I'm a woman.

She probably doesn't want to finish because it's after her own orgasm, her vagina has already pulsed and maybe the orgasmic muscle spasms has made it uncomfortable... It's not you, you're not doing anything wrong. So don't worry about that...

I would suggest you talk her through it. Once she feels like she's going to orgasm, try to achieve orgasm with her. It will bring you closer to her and neither of you will be left behind.
Personally, I would understand if my bf would wanted to cum first and then give me an orgasm (orally or manually) so that I cum afterwards too and we're both left satisfied.
Also, talk to her about it, ask her if she'll give you handjob afterward to finish you off, or let you finish off on her boobs or belly.
What else? Well you probably tend to go faster and harder as you get nearer to orgasm, so try to cum in a slow loving not so deep ramming motion, just so that she doesn't feel you hitting up against her cervix that's probably sore and uncomfortable...
And you know what? Congratulations on caring for her during her pregnancy and respecting her enough to not cum on her in her sleep and stuff. Very nice

 

UPDATE

So I texted my wife and told her I wanted to give her a little attention later (no pressure). She responded by texting me that she had an erotic dream and was looking forward to it as well.

My wife had to work late and I left work a little early so I decided to workout for an hour, pick up baby, go get a dozen roses for the wife. I then washed and folded two loads of laundry, cleaned the bedroom up, changed the sheets, put the roses in a crystal vase on her side of the bed, cooked dinner, played with the lil'one and fed her, gave her a bath, did the dishes, and vacuumed the floor.

The wife got home right before the baby's bed time, so we hung out as a family for a while. Then I give the wife 1/2 cup of white wine, give her a shower and rub/massage her down with soap, while kissing on her back and neck... I was really horny, I desperately wanted it.

We eat dinner and watch a couple shows on TV, then I turn it off and cuddle up next to her, my erection already present pressed against her butt and thighs.

She tells me she's not into it, can't relax, refuses to even touch me, and then pulls the covers over her head and tells me she can't handle me pressuring her for sex.

What do I do?