Everyone who knows my story realizes my loving relationship is strong, but the sexual weaknesses began as a byproduct of my wife's lagging disinterest in making love. At one time I would have easily filled the void with a mistress until it became so prevalent that it became a distraction living two lives. Having been let "off the leash" one more time is leading me to want to try one more angle (a saving grace if you will) to regain her attention before adopting another second life?

When I gave up on cheating in 1998 it required a lot from me to avoid the temptations which meant changes in me that went directly against my very nature like casual flirting, sparking up conversations in any environment, etc; over time forcing upon myself an introversion of my personality to bring about a denial of attention. However it's gone on too long feeling akin to Samson's haircut, so as I've decided to a new destination in life I carry with me a hope that if the wife won't change?

It's come time to make dramatic changes in my own life and move on in a positive direction that enriches my own personal growth in furthering my education, a body specifically built through maximum effort in nutrition and exercise, spending more time focusing on rebuilding my animal magnetism and involving myself in more projects outside the home. In some small way I'll mourn the death of what I subjected myself to all in the name of "love", but through many in the XNXX community I realize that I'm hurting myself trying to hold on to a flagging sex life with the wife.

Maybe through my changes the wife may see that she's losing that part of me that gave up on chasing what should've easily been given or maybe she won't? If it is then jealousy will rear it's ugly head and discussions will once again ensue, nonetheless if not I improve my life and my situation clearly separating myself from problems I allowed!

"You get treated in life the way teach or allow others to do so" ............Wayne Dyer

 

Well, as far as the title goes, "Can jealousy be used as an aphrodisiac"? I listened to an interview with a couple in an open relationship, and the interviewer asked about jealousy. The woman said when her husband would bring a woman home and she'd hear them fucking in the next room (yes, they're that open), she would feel jealous. But then the next time they had sex, out of guilt her husband would put in extra effort to pleasure her. So over time, she started to develop an odd pavlovian response and hearing him fuck someone else simultaneously made her jealous and horny.

 

I’m “that open” and I don’t feel particularly jealous because I’m happy that my partner and his girlfriend are happy.

 

I don’t think you can live your life based on how other people are going to react to it.

 

"Dont look for it Taylor, you might not like what you find"

 

Never cared for that game. Its nothing more then a head game and too many bitches like to play it.

 

I don't think an emotion as powerful as Jealousy could be an aphrodisiac.It invokes too strong a responce.The phrase "Jealous Rage wasn't coined for nothing,and could very well get you physically hurt or worse.To toy with someones thoughts,is both very cruel and very cold.If you Really love this Woman,Lay it all out there,if after the talks,nothing changes,sever the ties that bind,but do it kindly and without regret,Be the bigger person.
Good Luck

 

I don't care for those games.

To a normal person it should not be an aphrodisiac.
To some one with an unusual perspective or attitude the chance of competition makes them step up their play.
So in that sense one might find themselves getting lucky bit in reality there is still an underlying problem or issues as a couple.

 

I don't think of jealousy as a positive thing, or as bringing about much positive results. It's more likely to bring out resentment and distrust rather than acting as an aphrodisiac.
If you can't work out an open relationship deal, then I think being discreet might work out to be much less of a hassle in your life than trying to make jealousy create something positive.

 

I agree with dee I doubt anything positive will come out of it.

Most women who are intelligent and care enough to be attentive to their man know when he even starts glancing at other women that it is time to give a little attention
long before the need for any jealously arises. The ones that have insecurities or do not feel positive about themselves have issues.

Milo if that situation is behind you, if you have an open situation and for some reason you are still in the same situation it is not going to change much of anything
for you in the big picture.

 

Honestly, if I would find out my other half is cheating on me or has cheated, it would be the point of breaking up unless he would show lots of regret and I would see his attitude towards me and us as a family improve WITHOUT me investing extra effort because I would be hurt very much.

 

All of that stuff is very mentally damaging. Jealousy, mind games, feeling resentment, even when one just pretends things are okay but finding ways to cope with whatever the issue is. Too many people are hurting or not content or happy in their situations now days. People try to find ways of living with or dealing with things sometimes those things end up making things worse. Makes you wonder how things got here. How life is and relationships now days. All i know is there is alot of pretending. Wish i had some answers for you but i do not. But i wish you luck. I feel for you and understand your dilemma.

 

Nope i don't do jealousy, anyone who attempts to make me jealous gets to stay in my past

 

One thing I can honestly say is that you're trying @Milo Cronos . And you've been trying awfully hard, and it shows you love your wife very much. Try and do what you think best, it wouldn't work out for me if I played the jealous card. But I'm wishing you the best, good luck with everything.

 

I'm sure I'll be saying this a few times, but the working out to the point of focusing full on body sculpting, strength training, nutrition and conditioning are just a long time inevitable plan in action! The question was could the changes as I work toward making a career full time from these disciplines cause an "aphrodisiac" effect through my situation if it causes jealousy?

 

A jealous woman doesnt get horny,... have a beer.

 

Do exercises and change whatever to make you happy, not to impress others.